When you've been job hunting, chasing a promotion, or building a business for too long without success, it's easy to fall into the trap of negative self-talk. I often hear people say: “I'm too much.” “I'm too old.” “I'm too… [you fill in the blank].”
Before you know it, you start believing these limiting thoughts. And once you believe them, you begin hiding your true self, trying to become what you think others want. You shape-shift to fit into a mold that isn't yours, and it leaves you feeling drained, discouraged, and still not getting the results you want.
Here's the truth: starting from the outside, trying to be what others expect, never works. Success begins when you start from the inside.
How?
It's simple, but not easy: Instead of forcing yourself to fit what you think they want, be intentional about finding work, a culture, and clients that align with you.
Know who you are and own it.
Here's what knowing yourself entails:
☑ Know your "why"—your purpose behind what you want.
☑ Know your superpowers—what sets you apart.
☑ Know your values—what matters most to you.
☑ Know your passions—what lights you up.
☑ Know your vision—what you truly want for your life and work.
If any of this is unclear, it's time to pause and do the work. Journal your thoughts, get feedback from trusted people, and challenge any resistance you feel. Are you being fully honest with yourself?
Next steps?
Own it. Don't settle for anything that isn't aligned with who you really are or what you truly want. This is your one life—do you want to spend it playing small, or do you want to live fully and authentically as yourself, flourishing in your purpose?
YOU get to choose.
Are you choosing YOU right now?
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